Mamma dukes has been home for a day now and I can already tell she is going stir crazy. And let me tell you, she is such a rockstar. Not even joking.
When I went to visit her on Thursday, she had already been walking around. Yesterday, she got released from the hospital, got home, and had to walk that long long pathway to the front door and the even longer distance up the front stairs. Now for those who don't know pain, it's like a mile when you are in it. And she did traveled that distance with grace and a silent determination that honestly brought tears to my eyes.
I never would have thought I would be brought to tears by being so happy for someone. The past few days I have been brought close to tears for that.
Now, it's not to say frustration has not set in for mom. This is a woman who can not stay still at all and is always on the move. Even when she has a cold, she is moving. It's nuts. So to have to stay in bed all day, it's maddening. And it's going to be a tough journey for her. But my mom? She's a tough cookie. She gets up when she can. She sits on the bed or couch when she can. I'm pretty sure she is trying her best not to take her pain medication and just deal but sometimes it's just better to take the medication.
Now I'm hear to entertain her as best as I can, but I know it's difficult. Dad and I sat on Mom's (really Chris's but whatever) bed to eat dinner tonight. Pizza from down the street. And we were just trying to lift her spirits, just like her and Dad used to do for me.
My mother is a beautiful woman who has always had a strength and determination that I always admired. Gotta love her even more now when she is in incredible pain, but still puts on a smile and very rarely complains.
PS. You should see all the get well wishes and such she is getting. She is SERIOUSLY loved.
All I wanna do is go visit mom. To keep her company and try to get her mind off of everything like she tried to do with me.
But instead, I'm going into work.
Update from this morning though: Mom was having breakfast when I called her earlier in the day, which made her so excited. Food. It's the most important thing we worry about. She said she hasn't been in pain, but that sitting up in the bed sometimes makes her light headed. Last night when she was sitting up she had to recline the bed cause she was in pain. But go figure that vaso would be part of the whole experience.
I'm gonna call her later to see if she got to walk around at all. They tried yesterday to have her get up from the bed to move to the chair and she started to get light headed and she couldn't do it. My mom is a warrior though. She's gonna do it.
In 2012, I plan on not visiting a hospital. Like the whole year.
Mom had her hip replacement surgery this morning. I said my good lucks last night because she had to go in at 5:30 this morning. She went in surgery at 7 and I got a text message from my dad saying everything was fine around 9:30 maybe? To say I was distracted throughout the whole work day is the biggest understatement of the month.
We went to see her after dinner. Dad had told me she was in pain, that he saw her cry for one of the first times ever. My mom is a beast. She never cries even when she is extremely upset. But I have known she was in pain for weeks now. Whenever she got in and out of the car she winced in pain. And the past few days whenever she walked, it was even worse.
So I'm glad she is will no longer have pain. When we visited, I got choked up a few times. When she wasn't looking at me but looked so small in the hospital bed. When she and dad just were staring at each other, or when she grabbed his hand because she was in pain. It's hard to see a parent uncomfortable. It's something I have had to do a few times this year and I'm not okay with that.
She is in the hospital for the next few days then she gets to experience the pleasure of being home/bed bound for weeks on end. I know my mom, it's not gonna last long before she goes absolutely wild. In fact she already has started.
To mom, who I know will eventually read this. You will get better. And I'm going to be there whenever you need me every step of the way.
But seriously, no more hospital visits for a few years okay?
